Saturday, January 30, 2016

R.I.P. Ray Colliton

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By Maryann Spurgin

Longtime ME patient Raymond Colliton died
yesterday of respiratory issues
(bronchitis/-emphysema/ pneumonia). He
was 68.

Ray was the founder of the Co-Cure project
and also was involved in the ME Society of
America website.

Here is a eulogy from his good friend
Maryann Spurgin.

RAYMOND F. COLLITON
March 10, 1947 - January 29, 2016

"There is no possession more valuable than a
good and faithful friend." ~ Socrates

"If the machine of government is of such a
nature that it requires you to be the agent
of injustice to another, then I say, break the
law." ~Henry David Thoreau

By Maryann Spurgin, Ph.D., ME Society of
America

It is with great sorrow and sadness that I
must announce the death of my close friend
and our colleague, Raymond F. Colliton,
known to his friends and family as a brilliant,
witty, erudite, kind and giving person, an
entertaining conversationalist, and devoted
to his family.

Ray died peacefully in hospice care on
January 29, 2016, with his loving wife,
Bernice Melsky, at his side. He was 68 years
old.

Ray is known in the ME community as the
owner and manager of the Co-cure project,
an email list serve and (now-archived)
website that kept the community of
researchers and patients informed on the
science and politics of ME for decades.

Ray also did all of the webmaster work on
my "ME Society of America" website.

He spent much time, energy, and money
keeping the ME community informed as well
as helping patients, although he had not
been involved in Co-cure for the last two
years due to illness & retirement.

He kept a very low online / internet profile,
staying out of the limelight and working
behind the scenes.

Ray had a Bachelor of Arts degree in
philosophy; he shared the philosopher's
ongoing questioning of the status quo, and
he flouted anything that stood in the way of
helping his friends and family, knowing that
law and morality were often on opposite
sides.

He understood the power structures of the
world, of law, business, and politics.

He was classically educated, studied Latin,
knew politics, history, economics, and
science, and I thoroughly enjoyed his
knowledge on so many things and his
entertaining conversation for many years.

Ray had a sporting, clever sense of humor
and often took hilarious pot shots at my
(many) flaws, which had me in stitches
laughing every time we spoke.

Ray, when young, had planned to become a
Catholic priest; after obtaining a degree in
philosophy, he gave that up to study
finance, and he was a financial whiz.

Prior to becoming ill with ME in 1988, he had
a career in systems administration for a
Fortune 500 company, then went on to
develop his own small business consulting
firm.

He had extensive experience in pension plan
and employee benefits plan design and
management.

He was the managing owner of the Co-Cure
Project, a large international information
distribution e-mail list and Web site, both of
which were devoted to science and
advocacy issues surrounding ME.

Ray went into the hospital in Bensalem, PA,
with bronchitis in late December,
complicating his emphysema.

Hospitalization made him worse, he became
weaker, too weak to swallow, he developed
pneumonia & had to have oxygen and a
ventilator in the ICU.

After several weeks of fighting to get better
in ICU, Ray and Bernice made the decision to
move him to the hospice section of the
hospital on January 28.

My heart goes out to his caring wife, Bernice
Melsky, his brother Edward, sisters Margie
and Maggie, daughter Carrie and many other
family members who loved him.

My heart is very heavy because he was one
of my best friends EVER, another close friend
gone too soon.

May his adoring family find peace in
wonderful memories, and may those of us
with ME be grateful for the massive amount
of work he did to help patients as he worked
behind the spolight.

He will live in the hearts of those of us who
knew him.

Ray, you are missed.

This post was approved by his brother,
Edward V. Colliton, Ph.D. Written by
Maryann Spurgin, Ph.D., long time friend of
the deceased and founder of the ME Society
of America, now archived:
https://web.archive.org/.../http://www.cfids-cab.org/MESA/


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1 comment:

Sheryl said...

Gone too soon. Rest in peace, Ray. The world was greater with you in it. Thank you for your relentless work on behalf of your brethren.