Wednesday, September 23, 2015

Tweets! 20 Things to Say to an Ill Person - Invisible Illness Awareness


We here plenty of things of what not to say to an ill person, but sometimes this leaves our friends and loved ones saying nothing at all. They can begin to feel like everything they say is wrong, so maybe they should just stop talking.

There are, however, some words we who are ill long to hear and they can stand out when one is inundated with things they'd prefer not to hear. We hope this gives people an idea of some small words that make a difference.


I KNOW every one of my friends and neighbors goes grocery shopping.  Would it really be that difficult for one of them to pick up an item or two for me?  Or are they assuming that I would not reimburse them for what they buy?

Invisible Illness Awareness Week, Fact #22

Fact #22
Most medical residents leave med school believing that 80% patients R addicts seeking drugs
Unfortunately, what the professor believes, the students will believe, and those students who become professors will then teach their students to believe.
I was in a Catch 22 -- the doctors had already tagged me as "depressed divorcee", so if I had followed a male friend's recommendation to "just cry" in order to prove that I was in pain, the doctors would have taken the tears as proof of depression, not pain, and still would not have given me pain pills.  Unfortunately, when you are passing out from the pain, you cannot safely get to the doctor's office to prove that you are in that much pain, and if you go to his office on a day when you are NOT passing out from the pain, he tells you to stop exaggerating because you're not passing out in front of him, therefore you never do it.
All their claims that I was exaggerating could have been disproved by checking me into the hospital for observation and having the nurses document it.  Which was precisely why they didn't want to put me in the hospital -- it would have proved I was telling the truth and they would have had to take me seriously instead of brushing it off as no need to do tests or x-rays "because there's nothing to find."