Wednesday, February 13, 2013

The Unchosen Path: Reflections from the Inner Journey of Illness by Laurie Hope.

The Unchosen Path: Reflections from the Inner Journey of Illness by Laurie Hope.

"Everyone seeks to be happy. But when we physically feel lousy, our external sources for happiness are not so easily accessible. Sometimes the suffering of illness lies not so much in its accompanying physical sensations, but in the personal sense of diminishment and the social isolation and separation it brings."
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If I had a dollar for every time someone who doesn't deal with chronic illness told me "just be happy", or the even more ridiculous, telling someone who's effectively bedridden to "just go out to a movie or something".....
 
It's hard to be happy when you're in constant pain so severe you can't sleep.  When your body is shutting down from years without sleep.  When you know you're dying and all your friends insist "no, you're not!" instead of listening carefully to what you're saying that backs up the statement.
 
When your chronically ill friend says they're lonely, engage your brain before you open your mouth.  Ask if you can come over for a visit before you say something stupid like "why don't you join a club to meet people" or "take a cruise!" (ummmm, do you really think that Disability pays that much?)

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