Parenting When You Have Fibromyalgia
It is hard enough taking care of yourself and your relationship with your spouse when you have fibromyalgia. But sometimes it breaks womens' hearts as they worry about the effect on their children. The good news? It's been my experience that fibromyalgia in parents usually results in their children feeling even more loved and closer to their parents!
You may wonder how you can explain having fibromyalgia to your children without scaring them. Simply let your children know that you have a problem, but that it isn't dangerous. It just leaves you feeling tired and achy sometimes – kind of like when you have a cold or flu. So you can't do everything you'd like to do.
Feeling like they can't be there for their children is one of the hardest things many women with fibromyalgia fear. What I have found in treating thousands of women is that the fibromyalgia actually results in their having a closer and very loving relationship with their kids – because the Mom actually spends more time at home with the children, in settings that are warm and close such as reading a book or watching a movie with them. Because of this, I've seen that the children of women with fibromyalgia usually feel very close to their Moms, feel very loved, and do just fine!
As for your duties to your family, it's important to remember that if you don't take care of yourself first, you won't have anything left to give anyone else. Your body has a "use it or lose it" approach to efficiency. Because of this, if you don't stay somewhat active, you'll decondition and lose function. Do a walking program, but only to a level that feels comfortable. Use a pedometer to monitor your progress. Begin at a level that is comfortable (even if it's walking just a minute or 2) and aim over time to get to the 10,000 steps a day level.
In addition, Yoga and Tai Chi have both been shown to be very effective in helping to decrease pain and increase function in women with fibromyalgia – so these are also highly recommended. For the few of you that are too ill to even walk for a few minutes a day, starting with exercises in a warm water pool, which increases your buoyancy, can increase conditioning to where you can advance to walking and then more active exercises.
Taking care of yourself is a key to having energy for your kids. Having 5 children myself, I'll offer one more thought. If your children know that they are unconditionally loved, they will do just fine - no matter what! And your ability to love your children is something the fibromyalgia can't take away ;-)
Love & blessings,
Treating Fibromyalgia with Trazodone
This study evaluates treating fibromyalgia through the use of trazodone, a non-addictive medication that helps you sleep in low doses (25-75 mg at night instead of the usual 300-450 mg dose). Read more »
Chocolate Shown to Improve Mood and Brain Function
Is that why people who eat chocolate tend to be happy and smart ;-)? Read more »
Coenzyme Q10 (CoQ10) 200 mg Chews - Chocolate or Maple Nut Flavor
Coenzyme Q10 is critical for the electron transport system (ETS) to do its job of harvesting over 75 percent of the ATP energy from food. Because of this, it is very important in energy production. Although CoQ10 is found in the diet, it can become depleted during periods of excessive energy demands. Levels of Coenzyme Q10 are also significantly lower in women who use oral contraceptives and other estrogens.
Supplementing with CoQ10 is especially important if taking cholesterol-lowering prescriptions (e.g., Lipitor) as most cholesterol-lowering drugs deplete your CoQ10 levels. This is especially tragic because this deficiency can aggravate both the pain and decreased heart function seen in CFS/fibromyalgia. It can also worsen the congestive heart failure (CHF) seen in patients with heart disease - and doctors are largely unaware of this, simply blaming it on the heart disease.
In addition to helping energy and heart function, studies have demonstrated that Coenzyme Q10 can:
- Enhance immune function.
- Assist weight loss when dieting.
- Decrease the frequency of migraine headaches.
- Raise low sperm counts.
- Help slow Parkinson's Disease.
- Improve exercise tolerance in sedentary people.
- Decrease allergies.
For an outstanding morning energy cocktail, take the Coenzyme Q10 (200 mg) along with Ribose (Corvalen) 5 gm and the Energy Revitalization System vitamin powder. Give this combo 3 weeks, and prepare to be amazed!
FEATURED QUESTIONS FROM READERS
Q: I have fibromyalgia and an elevated ANA (anti-nuclear antibody) blood test level of 1:160. What does this mean? Read more »
Nostalgia Time - Remembering the 50's
For those of you who remember and for those who missed out on the experience of the 50's, this is one of the best nostalgia video's I've ever seen. It's simple, but really brings out old memories. And if you weren't from this generation - well, listen and eat your hearts out. It was one of the best of times.
QUOTE OF THE WEEK
Destiny Awaits Us
"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us."
- Joseph Campbell
[June H, who sent this to us, adds: I love this, especially because of the huge changes in my life because of CFS/FM/IBS. I attach it to all emails and have it written out in my journal. When I read it, it reminds me that the life I had planned is no longer going to happen, but perhaps there is a better, new life waiting for me!]
We thank June H for this week's quote. June wins her choice of a free bottle of Corvalen or Energy Revitalization System vitamin powder. We invite you to email us your favorite jokes or quotes. If we use it, you'll win your choice of either of these.
Thursday, April 14, 2011
Parenting When You Have Fibromyalgia
In a message dated 4/14/2011 2:14:43 A.M. Pacific Daylight Time, [email protected] writes: